To be honest, I see your point now. Thanks for working through it with me

To tell someone to chill out. I could have said man or pal or friend, but I chose “bud” this time. I don’t think it’s an infantilizing term at all

That’s not what happened

I think I responded to the wrong person initially, but can I ask why saying “bud” is bad?

Lol simmer down, bud. You didn’t make the movie; you just liked it. No need to take it personally

I don’t know. One time I joined a game, and I had plenty of reasons to join the party, but the DM started RPing a really rude character, and it’s like his method of getting me to join the party was to be a huge asshole to me? I just didn’t pick up on it, and when I finally gave my character an ass-pull reason to join (that I could do some good if I tagged along) the DM was like “jeez, finally” and it sucked.

Like, if I’m playing a level 1 wizard, and the DM tells me I’m gonna die if I enter the conflict, it’s not really my backstory’s fault that I don’t jump into the fray. Sometimes you’re dealing with an inexperienced DM that expects you to metagame your way into the party. I genuinely thought he was on the verge of giving me the opportunity to convince the party to run away from the dragon, not stay and fight it.

I agree. People are getting all riled up for no good reason.

I think you’re hilarious.